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A new milestone in the Men’s Rights Movement (MRM) has been reached, the launch of a new magazine entitled MRm!

This edition was produced by Factory (Editor and Creative Director), with contributing writers Amfortas, Fidelbogen, Paul Elam, and Angry Harry. Great job, guys! Give it a look-over, and feel free to send them your feedback.

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Best to Treat Seattle Women Like Children

"Disappointment, defined as the gap between expectation and reality, is an immutable part of life. True adults — those who are mentally and emotionally mature — accept, manage, and move past disappointments, and they don't expect others to prevent them.

Children, on the other hand, whether 5 or 35, do not and cannot deal with disappointment. Despite all the talk about feminism and equality, Americans, via outmoded chivalry and unconstitutional reproduction, child-custody, rape, and domestic-violence laws, keep women in perpetual childhood. Yes, American women have grown accustomed to being spared risk, pain, and disappointment."

Read more of this excellent piece by Marc H. Rudov.

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SnoCo DV shelter changes name, but not tactics

Now calling themselves Domestic Violence Services of Snohomish County (Everett, WA), instead of the Center for BATTERED WOMEN, becuase they want to serve men they say. Yeah, right sayeth the Geezer.

Note this from the business pages. Operative part below:

"Cost is $15 plus an unwrapped gift or gift card for a mother or child"

Guess the men and their children they now serve get bupkis.

Geezer OUT!!!!


http://www.heraldnet.com/article/20081027/BIZ/710279956&SearchID=73334242920869

Special eventsHelp the South Snohomish County Chamber of Commerce take a bite out of domestic violence with a lunch donated by Outback Steakhouse, from noon to 2 p.m. Nov. 19, at 10121 Evergreen Way, No. 15, Everett. Proceeds benefit Domestic Violence Services of Snohomish County. Cost is $15 plus an unwrapped gift or gift card for a mother or child. For information, call Julie Martin or Vicci Hilty at 425-259-2827. For information about Domestic Violence Services of Snohomish County, go to www.dvs-snoco.org.

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Hypocrite; Thy name is Jessica Valenti

Hypocrite; Thy name is Jessica Valenti

Bare with me folks. This gets lengthy, but I will promise you, it is well worth the trip. Well, for some of you anyhow…

Well now, I am not one to point fingers at those that expect everyone else to follow a rigid set of rules, designed by them of course, but practice another…

Aww, who the hell am I kidding. I love pointing it out! Case in point. As the Gonzman would say, those hippy chicks at feministing… or in this case specifically, one Jessica Valenti, is at it again.

This time its sexist adverts depicting women in demeaning ways like…. Gawd! Doing… Laundry! Oh, did I mention that it was a retro-commercial? You know back in the day when a woman was in the home and a man was out in the fields/factory/office? Ah, no matter. Here is the ad first, then her comments:

Jessica states; "Clorox does end up unintentionally showing how women have been doing household grunt work for generations. The worst line in the commercial says that 'even a man or two' has done the laundry. As if all the women watching are supposed to have some little laugh to ourselves about the inequitable division of labor. 'I do shit work for free, tee hee!'"

“Unintentionally”? I think not. I am sure that the advertisers knew exactly what they were implying. The poor woman/evil lazy man theme is living strong and well in advertising and marketing la-la-land… trust me.

As a matter of fact, what’s this so called, “Shit work”? Seems to me that if clothes require washing someone needs to do them. Back when women ‘ran the house’ it was the woman’s job. Oh boo hoo. Furthermore just where in the hell does she get this “free” shit from? If she is “running the house” and he is FINANCING the household with his labor, then it is what we in the real world like to call, a partnership. His supporting of her, as in a roof over her head, food on the table, and the oh-so-wonderful MALE invention called a washing machine, are all considered as ‘payment’ for her SHARE of the workload.

Even by today’s standards, if he is working 60 hours and she is working 20 or even 40, just who has the time to be doing said washings? Certainly the person that has more time to burn. If that is the woman, which it is most of the time, Ooo-la-la! Logic!

Back when my children were young, their mother worked. I did also, but from the home. I have always had the comfort of working from the home. Now mind you, I worked just as many hours as she did, and sometimes even more. But you know what? I was here. It just made sense for ME to throw a load or two in during the day… to have dinner on the table, to take care of the soccer practices, recitals, and doctors’ appointments. I was the one that had the luxury of flexibility in my work. You know that thing that many employers afford to most women with children, but not to very many men? Yea, that flexibility. So I guess I am the “once in a while a man” they reference in the commercial eh Jessica?

Now lest I get on a tangent, not uncommon for me, this article is not about the commercials specifically. It is about the hypocrisy of a self proclaimed ‘predominant’ feminist blogger(s). But to do that I have to show where the hypocrisy begins; let’s continue shall we? In another similar entry (aren’t they all?), Jessica goes gaga over yet another advert. This time it is Tom Ford’s perfume for men ad. Here is the advertisement as well as her post on the advertisement:

Tom Ford wants everyone to know about his big, thick, hard...perfume bottle"
(Jessica Valenti)

Jessica says, “Just in case you didn't get the oh-so-subtle hint the first time around, Tom Ford wants to make sure that you know he has the most cock-like cologne around.”

Admittedly, I kind of agree with ole Jessie as far as the “WTF” factor. I just don’t get the ad. Why is it necessary to put his bottle on the crotch of a woman’s obviously shaven beaver? I really don’t get it. BUT! ….. BUT! All things being equal, advertisers do things like this for shock value - amongst other things. The point is to get you to remember. And it does, does it not? Think of Tag spray for men for starters. Or better yet, have a gander at this!

FORD’S COMMENTS:
"It was meant to be a play on the new [fragrance] campaign," Ford says—ads are running in magazines on newsstands now that show a bottle of his juice strategically placed in front of a woman's crotch, barely obscuring the holiest of holies. "But there's a double standard with featuring female nudity and featuring male nudity," Ford adds. "When people say to me, 'Well, you objectify women,' [I say] I'm an equal opportunity objectifier. We had a lot of magazines reject the female version [of the campaign], so the male version is going to get rejected even more."

Interesting how THAT little tidbit (pardon…) of information/imagery never entered her nice little buttoned-up ideology, eh?

As for her reference to an “oh-so-subtle hint the first time around”, she is referring to an initial post on her site pertaining to an advertisement similar in nature, below:

And if that isn’t enough to show her disdain for the evils that are male, have a look at this short post:

“Oh. My. God.”

“This may be one of the most heinous (and most ridiculous) displays of dismembered women's body parts I've ever seen. The question is, is it more disturbing to dismember with functionality like a sink, or just straight up for display?“

“The fact that this product in particular is being used as a substitute for a dead animal makes it a wee more heinous for me, but it's a toss-up."

Hmmmm… “Dismembered”? And what my dear would you call a ‘dildo’? You know, those “personal care items” you so pleasingly and enthusiastically promote?

To whit;

“In a campaign to expand the range of their products, Amazon.com has recently started selling sex toys. Awesome.

It’s actually a shitload (around 37,000) of sex products, ranging from condoms and lubricants to dildos and vibrators, located in the Health and Personal Care section. Condoms and lubes have been the top sellers of the products, reaching the top 100 best sellers on the site.

So kudos to Amazon for expanding the personal care of their customers! Click here to check out the products o’ pleasure. After all, who can resist when the vibrators are decorated with daisies.”

Oh, I forgot. That’s differennntttttttttttt……

Anyhow. Moving on…

Sexist? Sure…I guess you could say that. Poor taste? Most certainly. stupid? Indeed. I also find the singing fish of similar form to be stupid as well. “Heinous”? WOW! I donno. Maybe, but not without admitting that many, many advertisements use men in similar manor if not worse. For instance:

The All Men Are Bastards Knife Blocks

The advert (left) claims, “If you've got some aggression to get out and need a place to store your kitchen knives, this is the product for you. It comes with five stainless steel knives--a paring knife, bread knife, carving knife, and large and small chopping knives. The blades are protected in the rear by a clear plastic sleeve.”

Or how about this image of a TV advert:

Trojans ad tells men (and women) that you (men) are pigs unless you use their product…so to speak. Funny how a product that is *supposed* to be for men or at least instill ‘sexual responsibility’ in men demeans them by calling them pigs if they don’t. BUT HEYYYYYYYY! Suck it up! Take it like a man! You know the drill. Shrill and shame…. Shrill and shame.

And not to be outdone by one-offs (or even two-offs) here is yet another one….

Oh the hilarity! Isn’t that just a hoot? Of course ole Jessie and her cohorts have no issue with this bit of ‘humor’. Narre a peep. After all, “It’s just a joke!” Right?

Now, least I be accused of being one-sided…Here is the ‘female version’ of above said pen holder…

But that is where the similarities end…. Ole’ Jesse is upset about the FEMALE VERSION, but says nothing about the male version. Stating;

“Apparently there's more than one woman-hating pencil product out there. First there was the headless doggie-style sharpener, and now Shakes shows us this: Lusty Linda the pen holder.”

You'll note from the packaging that Lusty Linda can utter "8 lusty sayings," which fall into one of two categories”, "good mood" or "bad mood," controlled by the click of a switch. Says one site (screen cap) that sells Lusty Linda, "too bad all women did not have such a switch." Ho ho ho!

Her "bad mood" sayings include "Ow," "Help, Help!" and "Get out you, you dirty old man." You know, because rape is hilarious. “

Indeed Jesse. Rape is hilarious…But only when it’s a man that is… Or should it just be ignored, like you did/do?

Furthermore, one could say that the male version wasn’t present when she did her ‘article’ about the evil, vile, and misogynistic female version. One would be wrong. You see, they ARE BOTH on the same page of the seller that she got her information and image from! Not only that, the male version IS FIRST ON THE PAGE! So, we can surmise that she did indeed see the male version, but chose, in true feminist fashion, to ignore it. Also note that the URL is: http://www.prankplace.com/penman.htm, whereas the name of the page is…PENMAN…

ahem… But I digress... Yet again.

And to add more hypocrisy to her never-ending level of ridiculousness, she calls out Glenn Sacks on his article on such objects, stating;

“Recently "men's rights activists" scoffed at the idea that we were offended by the pencil sharpener, which blogger Glenn Sacks wrote "depicts a conventional, common sex act which women enjoy." (What woman enjoys fucking without her head, I don't know.) I wonder if they'll find more excuses as to how "Help!" and "Ow!" are actually cries of unabashed pleasure.”

Hmmm, how blind can she be? The male version ALSO says similar things when the pen is inserted into his ass. Well, almost. There are no ‘approving indicators’ or ‘good mood’ categories. Only cries of pain…humorous as they are!

Of course, one of her cohorts just has to add her supporting diatribe. You know, to hit the point home;

“Cara puts it well:

This promotes rape. If you buy one of these things, you are promoting rape. If you laugh at one of these things, you are promoting rape. If you don’t laugh but still think that it’s a harmless joke, you are promoting rape. If one of your friends has one, or thinks it’s funny, and you don’t say anything about it, you are promoting rape. (Note: Bold hers)

How many more times do we have to say it? Rape is not funny.”

How exactly did we get from a tasteless and admittedly stupid pen holder to promoting rape? Only in a feminist mind I guess. But wait! Isn’t the male version promoting rape as well?

Of course not! That’s different! It’s funny! Can’t you take a joke? Gesh TMOTS! Get with the program! When it is perceived as derogatory towards women, it is derogatory towards women, period. When it is perceived as derogatory towards men… we men need to get a sense of humor.

Uhuh, we have heard it all.

Hypocrite; Thy name is Jessica Valenti.

Frankly, using sex to sell is a tried (or is that tired?) and true method of advertisers. Using violence and insults is not…. Well, that is unless the recipient of the violence is male that is. America’s Funniest Home Videos anyone? You cannot watch that show without seeing no less than two males getting it in the nads. Funny effin shit eh?

Now, I have just spent a significant amount of your time showing how Jessica Valenti; the feminist, has a real issue with sexism. Logically, you would guess that the crux of the issue is actually the objectification of women as sex toys, sexual play things, Using their bodies to sell, degrading them, etc…etc… ad nausea.

Please allow me to submit Exhibit A. This is Jessica at a gathering with other ‘like-minded’ individuals. Or so……she would have you believe….

Notice anything interesting about the image? Here, let me help you less piggy type readers of mine, or the blatantly stupid folks; her gal-pal is grabbing her breast. Now, from her own admission, she is heterosexual. So, the begging question is, WTF?

This is what ‘respectable professional feminist type women’ acts like? Better yet, at a quasi-public gathering? Isn’t this ‘sexual harassment”? Isn’t this an example of disgusting sexual behavior? Sexual harassment?

Would she smile so matter-of-factly if it were a male doing the titillating (pardon…)? Is this just one of those ‘girl thangs’? If so, then how can you be against evil vile men using women as sexual toys, sexual harassment, and allow this to happen to yourself… let alone be photographed? Furthermore, allow it to be published publically on the internet?

Oh, I answered my own question… Silly me. It is only when MEN do it or even thinks about it… THEN! It’s actually bad….

Oh! Wait! I got it! Did she ply you with alcohol? That’s it isn’t it? RAPIST!

Oh wait, silly me, yet again. If that is rape, then it must be a ‘good rape’.

Hypocrite; Thy name is Jessica Valenti.

And before any of you claim that I am just a MANster of photo-chopping. This is a real photo. Furthermore, don’t even go to the “well she was drunk and it was this one time….at band camp” crap.

For if it were, just once…at band camp, Exhibit B would not exist right? To whit:

Well, well well… Another titty grab! At a wedding yet! Not sure if it is the bride doing the grabbing, but WTF? Sure looks like it eh? Oh.. And by the way, should she be wearing white? I doubt it. Now that I think of it, where is the man-boy? How does he feel about his future wife acting like this at their wedding? Oh, I forgot (yet again). The wedding is HER day…Only about HER… Only her dreams, desires, and wants… not him. What he thinks or looks like with this sort of sexist activity is of no consequence… She is empowered! She is “OK with her sexuality!” And he damn well better be too! Or else!

SHIT! Wait a minute! A feminist? At a wedding? The imperial venue of the Patriarchy? The patriarchy’s tool of female oppression!? NO! It cannot be! Something is amiss!

In the ever popular style of Rod Serling; “Imagine if you will.. A man, about to be wed, grabs one of his patron pals in the jewels for a photo-op. The Wife to be…. Happy as a lark, giggling like a child with these interesting and empowering images burned into her and her parents’ heads…”

Yea… rightttttttttttt!

Hypocrite; Thy name is Jessica Valenti.

But wait! There’s more! Have a gander at this next action-packed image!

Huh!? Isn’t that …uhm….shit! That’s her sister, Vanessa! WOW! Mom and Dad must be oh-so-proud! So not only does ole Jessie have different male/female standards for public displays of ‘affection’, she also apparently thinks that lesbian incest is fine too! As does Vanessa as well I guess.

You go girllllllllz!

Hypocrite; Thy name is Jessica Valenti.

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Like, Um, Brilliant

The Democratic national convention began with sadness as I saw the hope I had invested in the blank slate of Obama evaporate after his choice of Joe Biden. Not even that well crafted documentary prior to Obama’s speech by the creator of An Inconvenient Truth who almost sold me on Al Gore as something more than he is (though not on global warming) could bring me back.

Of course, most guys who began that week still drawing pictures in erasable ink on the whiteboard of Obama probably continue to do so. There are not many who have bothered to research the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), of which Biden was the chief architect, and understand that it is essentially now a political crime to have a Y chromosome. But Biden is a non-starter for anyone that has.

Then, last week began with confusion. There was “wrinkly white-haired guy” with Pay-who?

I thought this guy McCain, who normally puts me to sleep, had finally made one of those crazy, unpredictable moves the press keeps claiming he is prone to. You know, Sen. “Maverick” and so on. I thought he’d done something stupid. I thought he was out of and Obama was sure to win. I was pretty sure the small number of guys like me that actually dig deep into policy issues, constitutional law, and know something about gender feminism would suffer 4 years of Biden that would only be slightly less palatable than a President Hillary Rodham.

But, as the week progressed, it started to dawn on me that the guy that normally makes me drowsy after beginning a speech with “my friends” might actually be on to something. The media that is hell bent on getting Obama elected had actually allowed some video time of Governor Palin to slip through. I don’t think they’ll make that mistake often for the next 60 or so days. Or, maybe I only saw her when surfing through Fox News, which already has hottie news anchors that don’t feel upstaged easily.

In any case, McCain seemed cleverer to me as the week progressed. The larger picture began to come into view. And I began to realize that maybe even Washington State could be in play in this presidential election.

For a Washingtonian, a female on the ticket is no big deal. It seems mandatory here to have righteous gender feminist female politicians running things. And the few men in positions of power, like Mayor Nipples, pander to the gender feminist establishment.

But, Sarah Palin is hot. Even after birthing five kids. Now, that is something unusual. And she doesn’t hate men. That is even more unusual for any guy in the state of Washington beaten down by the triumvirate of Gregoire, Cantwell, and Murray.

I mean, think about it. Gregoire is the ugly witch from the West, complete with a mole on the nose and a smile which, when she forces it through her scowl, makes you think she is imaging a brutal torture she has planned for her mangina husband later that evening. Cantwell is the ice lady. She occasionally shows up at Mariners games with good-looking guys half her age, and the women of Seattle celebrate that Cantwell is “dating” younger men in a reversal of the image that makes them so angry – the older guy with younger woman. Never mind that the guy with Cantwell is just some gay political aid that she arranged to have tag along just to create the image. I don’t know if Cantwell is a lesbian, but I’m pretty sure she’s not much into men. Then there is Patty Murray. She reminds you of the unfortunate girl in high school who always seemed angry at the boys and you always knew it was because she was just ugly and it was obvious to all that, at best, her future had a short, frumpy, bald accountant in it. She apparently does have a husband, but either she hides him in the closet, or he chooses to hide himself there whenever she comes back from inside the Beltway.

Then there is Sarah Palin. She was runner up for “Miss Alaska.” When you’re thinking of politicians and sex, it’s usually either the image of Bill Clinton pushing himself on a young woman caught up in the stardom, or some cranky old gay bashing Republican hitting on guys in a stinky public toilet.

Now, come on, admit it! How refreshing is it to look at Palin and think, “Damn, I’d like to do her.” Then you stop yourself and realize that is a bit of a ridiculous thought. Then you think, “Well, at least her husband, the guy that does do her, looks like a cool guy to hang out with. I mean, he has hot-rod snowmobiles and stuff!” She’s hot. She’s smart. Her husband seems like a cool dude. And she doesn’t hate men. And she’s in politics?!

Now a thought emerges that maybe McCain is smarter than he looks. Maybe the “dumb, out-of-touch old white guy” the media has managed to massage into our collective reticular activator (watched many commercials lately?) does not apply to McCain.

Fast forward to the Vice Presidential debates. What a pickle Biden is in. The wannabe “tough” guy, the cowardly “protector of women.” The architect of VAWA. Up against an opponent that is a woman, is hot, is anything but a “victim,” and thinks his policies are stupid. Palin is no gender feminist. What on earth is Biden going to do? What a lovely picture that makes ….

One starts to realize that the Obama crazed media has it entirely wrong. Palin was not chosen to get a slice of the supposedly disenchanted women who voted for Hillary Rodham in the primaries. The women that voted for Hillary are a thin slice of American women, all from the Democratic party. These women are the activist types, the types that see misogyny in their morning coffee, the type that despise well adjusted women like Sarah Palin, who are hot, successful, adore their man, and don’t know the meaning of the word “victim.” Hillary's sisterhood were never going to vote for a Republican no matter what, much less Palin.

No. What McCain is after are working class men and women. They don’t fall into one of the special interest groups – least not those that get the attention - which make up the Democratic party. The men will see Palin as refreshing, not just because she is hot, but because she doesn’t hate them. This is an unusual thing for these men. She will not be telling them they should feel guilty just because they are guys. The women in this group, well they have kids. And they tend to like their men. They may not be hot now, but they remember a day when they could turn heads.

Dino should be begging Palin to come campaign for him.

Goodbye Obama. It was fun for a while. Hello Palin.

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From Daddy Blogger--August is Child Support Awareness Month

Now, we tend to think immediately of CASH, but child support is much more than that, as evidenced by this excellent note from Father of Two.

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August 08, 2008
AUGUST IS CHILD SUPPORT AWARENESS MONTH

August has been proclaimed as "Child Support Awareness Month" in Michigan and throughout the United States.

Michigan's Family Law Court System would have you continue to support the outdated, biased, and stereotyped notion that a divorced, non-custodial parent (about 85% of the time the father), is good for nothing other than paying child support dollars into the system.

This is done to maximise the federal incentive dollars awarded to the states under Title IV-D of the Social Security System, which rewards every state for forcibly removing a fit, willing, and able parent from the life of his or her children.

"Supporting" your child does not come down to a divorced parent having a large part of their paycheck taken into this system to justify financial rewards.

Reasons to Support Shared Parenting
As a father of two, the following is my take on what "child support" really is, from A to Z. I hope you take the following to heart. These are just some of what I do, as a divorced, non-custodial father, to "support" my children.

A. Show AFFECTION for your children. Give them an ALLOWANCE for doing their chores.
B. Give them a proper BREAKFAST to start the day with. Make BATH time a fun, and clean experience.
C. CHALLENGE your children to rise to new heights. Increase their CONFIDENCE.
D. Appropriately and timely DISCIPLINE your children.
E. Set the proper EXAMPLE for them to learn by. Take them on ERRANDS with you.
F. Have FUN with your children.
G. GIGGLE and laugh with your kids. "GOOD JOB"-Praise them for good effort.
H. HUG your youngsters. Provide them a proper and safe HOME.
I. Embrace their INDEPENDENCE as they grow, but always be ready to wrap them in your arms.
J. JOKE with your children. Enjoy the lighter side of things.
K. KIDS will be KIDS. Let them be the wonderful youngsters they are.
L. LOVE your children. Tell them "I love you", often, and mean it!! Give them a nutritious LUNCH.
M. Teach them the proper MANNERS-to be courteous and respectful.
N. Learn how to say "NO" when necessary. Take them to enjoy the NEON signs of a fair or circus.
O. Take the unique OPPORTUNITY to shape the lives of your youngsters.
P. PROTECT them from harm. PROPERLY PARENT them.
Q. Give them a good QUALITY of life.
R. The "THREE R'S"-Reading, writing, arithmatic. Help them with and supervise their homework.
S. SUPPER, together, every night, as a family.
T. Give them your TIME. TEACH them right from wrong.
U. UNDER the covers-safely tucked into bed every night.
V. Take them with you when you VOTE. Take your children on VACATION with you.
W. WATCH television WITH your kids. Don't use it as a baby sitter.
X. Take them for X-RAYS, if they, heaven forbid, fall out of their favorite tree.
Y. Teach them how to use a YO-YO. Simple things are often the most rewarding.
Z. Take your children on a fun day trip to a ZOO. Fun for the whole family!!

Of course, there are hundreds of ways to truly "support your children". The system just wants to garnish the non-custodial parent's paycheck.

Help us say NO to Michigan's Family Law Court System. Denying a child the love, care, guidance, and nurturing of a fit, willing, and able parent is child abuse!

A FATHER OF TWO.

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21st Century 'moms'

Every once in a while, I come across a ‘site’ that just screams “ARE YOU EFFING SERIOUS?”

Below is a perfect example of what a 'modern' and 'independant' woman sees her husband as.... a mule. And what's her job? Guess...

It's a good thing she has time to follow her 'new passion' as well, feminism...

Oh, and I refuse to give a link to this pathetic site. Suffice it to say that it is a site dedicated to, now get this.... mommies! And this was listed under the heading of “The Equality Challenge”. Yea, okayyyyy…

Her post is in italics, and my responses are not...
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On November 18th, 2007 Barbara (not verified) said:

“Hi everyone! I just have to make mention a couple of things. First is the fact that I am in my mid thirties and have found a new passion (other than my wonderful husband and just as wonderful four children). My new passion is the subject of feminism. From it's very beginning to the current issues has held my fascination for the last few months or so. This is the reason I have come across this wonderful forum.”

Mid thirties, four children….. wow! Must be chaos in your house! Especially when you add feminism to the mix.

“Second, I too have a fantastic 'partnership' for a marriage. My husband works fulltime in an extremely emotionally, physically, and psychologically difficult job, goes to school to complete his second degree, and is also "on call" 24-7.”

Well, at least she can admit that it isn’t really a partnership, albeit subconciously. Note the use of the ticks around the word ‘partnership’.

So he works his ass off, goes to school, and is on call 24/7, and is supportive of you. And what exactly do you do to support him?

“With all this being said, he is the most supportive man I have ever been lucky enough to have met. He went from a single man to marrying me- a single mom of two with an abusive ex-husband. (whom is still extremely mentally and psychologically abusive) Duane (my wonderful husband) has taken the challenge of parenthood to the absolute extreme.”

Oh, that’s right, you gave him a ready made family and just for good measure, you added a couple more. What a woman.

And of course, just to add a little icing to the top of the cake, the tried and true “I have an abusive ex….blah blah”…. Got it. Thanks. And what exactly does that have to do with the price of freaking tea in China?

“Not only is he an active parent of my first two children, but in 2004, we were blessed with a set of girl/boy twins. My wonderful husband was never asked to change diapers because he was always headed that way before I got a chance to. He changed diapers, did dishes, had "binky patrol", got up almost every single night each and every time it was feeding time, etc., etc., etc. He did this even when he went back to work after taking a six-week FMLA.”

Well, isn’t that special. He got to take ‘family leave’ (without pay I am sure) so that you could… uhm… what….. sit on your fat ass and watch him do everything? How very…. Uhm… 21st century woman and supportive of you. Were you sick? Is there a reason for you not to do anything and he does everything (by her own admission)?

So he is an “active parent”. Gesh, then what does that make you? I would really hate to see what an “inactive parent” looks like. Oh wait….

“Now fast forward three + years and he continues to take on any chore that is necessary to maintain our household. This includes, but is not lmited to, dishes, cleaning bathrooms, planning AND cooking meals, vacuuming, windows, grocery shopping, potty-training assistance, laundry, etc. The list goes on. The really neat thing about this - I have never had to ask him to do these things. He does these things on his own!!! How cool is that? Oh, I must also mention that I am a stay-at-home-mom.”

Hmmm… The kids appear to be of school age now… At least two are and the other two are most likely in kindergarden. What is it exactly do you do all day again? Oh that’s right, you’re a stay-at-home-mom! That’s what! Oh wait! “potty Training assistance” so that must mean you at least do part of that…..

WHEW! Take a break! Must be very tiring! Would you like some bonbons with your oprah Madam? I am sure if you call your man-slave at work, he can stop by the store and get you another box!

Curious though, does he ever ask you to do anything? Do you ever ‘just do it’ because it needs to be done so that after a nice easy day at work he doesn’t have to come home and do it? Nawwww that would never enter into your selfish little mind now would it. Why would you? You can just sit around feeling lucky and ‘allow’ him to do it all and you so that you can follow your new passion, feminism! You go Grrrlll!

“So for all those who have lost hope as I had once done, every now and again there is a man (many more perhaps) that actually know how difficult running a household fulltime is. He walks in the door, takes off his uniform, rolls up his sleeves, and gets busy. This absolutely includes the fun "hi-yaaa!!!" (say it like you are doing a karate-chop). There is even bathtimes, story-times, and snuggles to be had!”

Lost hope in what? Having a personal slave that not only does everything traditionally his, but all of your traditional stuff as well? WHOOT! Man! What a lucky son-of-a-bitch he is! Or should I say husband-of-a-bitch….Seems more apropoe. All is well though. You found your gold ring! You can have time for your new passion and just wait a few years for him to croak! Then, it’ll all be yours!!!!!!!

“Knows how difficult running a household fulltime is”.

Really? How the hell would you know? You, by your own admission, haven’t a clue as to what it takes. Oh, wait, I take that back. You do know what needs to be done, you just don’t do any of it. You just gloat on a femikook site about ‘how lucky you are’.

Oh, you are lucky all right. No man in his right fucking mind would put up with this shit. You are a stay-at-home-mom but you don’t do any 'mom' stuff! Well, except the stay at home part that is. Personally, the word leach comes to mind.

“I still am very interested in becoming active in the feminism works of current events. Please give me some ideas that I can do to begin this challenge.”

Well for starters, how about getting your ass out of the house and work, you lazy bitch. Secondly, according to feminism, equality and sharing the workload is the order of the day. So you best be getting your ass off the couch and start doing some chores around the house. Maybe a nice dinner from the microwave once a month for starters. Wouldn’t want you to get overwhelmed now would we… Maybe you should go on holiday or something… you know, some ‘me time’. You sure could use it.

“I thank you all for your time.”

No problem. Not like you have any time to spare, so what else is a slav….err man who has plenty to spare to do?

“Sincerely, Barbara”

Oh, I don’t doubt that you have some redeaming qualities, I am just not sure what they are. I am sure though, that sincerity isn’t one of them you pathetic meatbag!

SOOOOOoooooo… Let's recap, shall we?

He works 6 days a week in a physically, emotionally, and psychologically challenging job.

He is ALSO attending college to get his SECOND degree.

He comes home and immediately "rolls up his sleeves and gets to work" by cooking dinner, doing baths, cleaning, laundry, etc etc.... all the while continuing to do traditional male things like house/yard/car maintenance stuff.

And what does she do? Well, she is a 'stay-at-home-mom'. Uhuh. Good to see that she understands what a stay-at-home-PARENT really does…

In closing, I am not condemning all stay-at-home-moms. It’s just that this woman is a perfect example of what I mean when I say that they (some) are so full of shit. In her warped little mind, this is what a husband ‘helping out’ is all about. Well, I don’t consider this a partnership at all. This man is on a one way trip to his grave.

If a woman wants the traditional role (staying at home mommy) then she should be doing the traditional STAY AT HOME stuff! Pretty simple actually. When I was a WORK-at-home-dad, I did most of the traditional mom stuff as well as my own dad stuff. Why? It made sense, I was home! She was out working her ass off, keeping us covered medically! It was the right thing to do! I had the flexability, and the time, I used it wisely. Something that the modern day stay-at-home-moms seem to have conveniently forgotten about.


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King County (Seattle) Sheriff Sue Rahr wants to hear from the sheeples, unless it is about DV

There was an article on Monday, in the Seattle P-I fishwrapper, about finding missing persons using cell phone records. Sorry, the on-line version was cut down and doesn’t have the quote about "we don't want to assist perps in finding their DV victims".

Now the story had nothing to do with DV, she inserted that little bait.

So, having a "relationship" with her Spinmeister, Sgt. John Urquhart, I wrote him a note, and copied her (text below) on what I thought of that.

I thought the note was fairly complimentary, but not the evil Sheriff Susan Rahr, who is in bed with the DV Divas, and their FLEAS© (That is Family Law Elitist Attorneys).

Bottom line, she thought she was replying to Herr Urquhart, but instead, sent it to the Geezer.

Now we know what the pols think of us, when we take the time to write at their invitation, and tell them what we think.

Oh, and that is really her desk phone number in her signature line.


----- Original Message -----
From: Rahr, Susan
To: The Geezer
Sent: Monday, May 05, 2008 2:06 PM
Subject: RE: Two things, two emails, this is the first

Who is this jerk?

Sue Rahr, King County Sheriff
516 3rd Ave.
Seattle, Wa. 98104
206-296-4155


From: The Geezer
Sent: Monday, May 05, 2008 7:49 AM
To: Urquhart, John
Subject: Two things, two emails, this is the first

Your boss did a nice job with the press on the cell phone tracking article this morning. No doubt due to your working with her, to give her just the right words.

You can tell her that I said so.

And I don't say nice things about her that often.

However, (a good friend told me to always ignore everything before the words however or but) her dragging the canard DV into it really detracted from the piece......from memory.....'we don't want to reunite an abuser with his victim'.......

So, I can make a public records request, or you can just tell me. How may times, over what time frame (last year or last two years) have there been requests that you determined were an abuser chasing down the victim of DV requesting you track them down via cell records??

Yeah, that is what I thought.

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---The Ignored (or is that Hidden) Truth

You know, every time I see a pink ribbon campaign I get pissed off. Oh sure, some would say; “if you knew someone that survived or even died from breast cancer, you’d think differently.” Well, I have, I do, and I still feel the same thank you very much.

Recently, I was ‘discussing’ yet again, the disparity in research, care, and funding for men’s health issues. And of course, the subject of breast cancer being the #2 killer of all female creatures on the planet, whereas #1 being the patriarchy itself…

Tired of the bullshit ‘facts’ thrown around, I decided to waste some of my time researching the actual FACTS from two major sources, that of the CDC (Center for Disease Control) and the NCI (National Cancer Institute).

Oh sure, I already knew that there was a significant disparity, but I wanted ALL THE FACTS. The how many’s and how muches, so to speak.

As with any “official statistical gathering”, there is always missing years. Why? I haven’t a clue. We are in 2008, yet there is very little concrete numbers more current than 2006/07.

Anyhow, without further ado, here is what I have found. By the way, I took the time to find this information, if you want to argue it, feel free, but look it up yourself. I aint your research bitch.

ACTUAL AND REAL NUMBERS on the disparity in research, education and treatment of two prevalent gender specific cancers; Prostate Cancer and (Female) Breast Cancer specifically.

Information from the 2006 NCI (National Cancer Institute) Fact Book:

Total budgeted dollars spent from 2002 - 2006 overall:

Male – 1.4 Billion
Female – 2.78 Billion - Almost twice the amount.

**Research dollars spent in 2006 alone on two gender specific cancers:

Male Prostate Cancer – 293.2 Million
Female (only) Breast Cancer – 584.7 Million - Again, almost twice the amount.

Estimated Incident rates of cancers for all races for 2007:

Male – 766,860
Female – 678,060 - Over 100,000 more cases in males versus females estimated

FYI: that from 2000 to 2004: Incident rate was 2.3M/1.7M Male/female – a difference of 600K more men.

Estimated Mortality Rate for all races 2007:

Male – 289,550
Female – 270,100 - Over 10,000 more male deaths estimated

FYI: that from 2000 to 2004: Mortality rate was 1.2M/807K Male/ female – a difference of about 400K more men.

** In most of their data sheets, 2006 was the latest numbers.

And for those that do not like to read, here is a cute little graph from the CDC showing the top 10 cancers - incident rate in 2004 for male/female (all races):

And here is the top 10 cancer mortality rate in 2004 for male/female (all races):

Please note the CDC’s reason for 2004 being the latest information:

“Previous versions of United States Cancer Statistics have been updated with 1999–2004 cancer cases as reported to CDC as of January 2007, and as reported to NCI as of November 2006, and made available through the SEER Program public use file.”

Notice that although not the #1 killer, prostate still KILLS MORE MEN OVER ALL RACES than breast cancer kills women... yet where is the research? Where is the $$? Where are the walkathons, the cans in the 7-11, the ribbons, and the stamps?! Where? Shit, even testicular cancer gets more media attention... and that is only because recently, a few public figures (Lance Armstrong for example) have MADE IT A MEDIA ISSUE. And that isn’t even in the top 10 cancers with just over 7 thousand new cases and 380 deaths in 2007.

Cute little tid-bits of info:

In 2006 alone, our government “granted” (gave) foreign countries: 28.16 Million dollars for cancer research. No stipulations or explanations as to where it actually went. Nice to know we have that sort of cash to just give away for…well… who knows?

In 2005, an additional $2.9 million was received by the NCI from the US Postal Service’s sale of the Breast Cancer Stamp. This is not calculated in the total dollar amount of breast cancer monies above.

In 2006, an additional $6.9 million was received by the NCI from the US Postal Service’s sale of the Breast Cancer Stamp. This is not calculated in the total dollar amount of breast cancer monies above.

So let us summarize:

Although the prostate is the #1 cancer site, we as a country spend almost double the amount of money on research, care, education and program moneys (USPS Stamps) on breast cancer (specifically women’s breast cancer – yes girls and boys, men can and do get it too).

Although prostate cancer is the #2 overall cancer killer of humans (sorry girls you are not the primary victims this time), breast cancer gets more media attention, funding, donations, educational programs, and of course donations.

Although prostate cancer doesn't differentiate between common men and political leaders, there have been recent politicians that have had a battle with prostate cancer... Yet, they continue to perpetuate this financial discrimination, I call it 'gray discrimination', upon all men. why?

Tell me again why we need a Federally Funded Women’s Health Commission as well as an International Women’s Health Commission (read – our tax dollars) whereas none exists for men?



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Poor, Poor White Women

Isn’t it amazing how white middle aged women can find victimhood in an embarrassment of riches? Well, Joni Balter of the Seattle Times can.

You see, Joni and her poor white women friends need to go around whispering that, instead of towing the sisterhood’s line and going rabid for Hillary, they are Obama supporters. This is particularly funny, because white middle aged women in Seattle have a pecking order of political correctness for "identity groups" and, clearly, Obama the African American is not far from the top. Maybe a gay man who is part of a “committed” gay relationship, that also has adopted kids, would rank above Obama as a statement of righteousness. Ditto for a lesbian under similar circumstances. But not much else.

There is this hilarious blog called Stuff White People Like that seems to be the basis for most of Joni’s opinions. Another really, really fun blog is White Women Suck. In fact, these blogs describe Seattle to a tee, even though they do not directly target our silly town. You will find the spirit of Joni Balter and most of Seattle's population in these blogs.

Poor Joni. She laments:

The most conflicted group of voters this year is women of a certain age [definition: over 40, over weight, frumpy, grumpy, divorced or never married, likely no kids but have a dog they treat as a child, and in need of a good lay] and political striping who have been told it is almost treasonous to support Obama because finally, at long last, a woman has a shot at the White House.

This is the worst part of gender politics, this notion that women should support women because of the double-X bond.

Why is that? Because it feeeeels bad? Upsets you? Maybe there should be a law the prohibits black men from running against white women for political office. Really, though, are you even sure Obama vs. Hillary is such a bad thing? I mean, Joni, the old gal, has found a way to appeal to the victim impulse of the majority of gender obsessed Seattle white women.

Actually, the worst part of gender politics is not that women should feel compelled to support women. It’s the victimhood claimed by one of the most spoiled populations on the planet. It’s this, the climate and political apparatus that promotes this, and this.

In any case, check out the blogs mentioned above. You’ll swear they are based exclusively on Seattle. And, you will get a good laugh in the process.

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Did he really wear this shirt to a Child Support Workgroup Meeting?

Here's a pic of one of the guys who is very supportive of children as well as supporting changes in the Washington Child Support guidelines and custody arrangements in Washington state. Not quite wearing a billboard in public, but close to it.

Who is he anyway? Looks kinda like that Geezer guy that occasionally posts here.

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---Here's my letter - How about yours?

Honorable Michigan State Parole Board,

I am writing to you in the hopes that you will revisit your recent decision to deny parole for William J. Hetherington. Also, I apologize if I may in advance for my rather lengthy letter.

William J. Hetherington has been incarcerated in Michigan prisons for over 20 years for the alleged crime of ‘spousal rape’. Coincidently, in 1986, he became the first man “convicted” under this new law. A law that was created, in my opinion, for no other reason than to vilify men in a court of law with no hope of fair and equal treatment under said laws. But that is not really at issue here. And even now, 20 years later, he is still incarcerated well beyond that of a ‘normal’ rapist all based upon the “he said – she said” model that has been proven time and time again to be the case when a divorce is in process.

In reviewing the parole hearing notes, your notes, it is clearly evident that William does not accept guilt for a crime that he believes he did not commit. Furthermore, it is quite clear that based upon your own notations, he does not propose a threat upon society, has bettered himself in many ways, has medical issues that require a specialty physician, and has been virtually a model prisoner. Under normal circumstances, these points alone would garner a pedophile or dare I say murderer, a chance to continue on with his life outside of a cell…

Yet you continue to deny this man parole. The question remains, why? For what reason are you denying this man his right to reasonable due process? Incarceration is supposedly used for two reasons, punishment and rehabilitation. Reverting back to your notations once again, it is apparent that the sole reason is that the "prisoner denies the offense".

Rehabilitation can only beget in the event of acceptance of guilt, for which William categorically denies to this day, over 20 years later. Since when is release from incarceration upon completing the ‘required’ amount of time dependent upon ones admission of guilt?

Punishment on the other hand should fit the crime should it not? If not, it should at least fit the guidelines set forth by the law in and of itself, should it not? The state of Michigan stipulates that the sentence for ‘spousal rape” is to be set at 1 to 10 years incarceration. Yet, without showing just cause, the judge sentenced him to 15 to 30 years which is more than twice that of the average convicted rapist in Michigan.

As for the case itself, there are so many discrepancies; it boggles the mind when attempting to understand how this man was found guilty. I would dare to imply that it is that of made-for-TV movie on Lifetime. I would like to highlight a few indicators that I believe had merit alone to question the validity of this case and apparent gross miscarriage of justice. To whit;

• Hetherington, a Vietnam Veteran, was honorably discharged from the U.S. Air Force, received a National Defense Service Medal, and had no police record of any sort.
  
  
• Linda Hetherington is not and has never been a battered wife. She herself, under oath, testified that he had never beaten her in their 16 years of marriage.
  
  
• Hetherington has always maintained his innocence. As previously stated, this case was a he-said-she-said case during a custody battle; he claims that they had consensual sex, she claims it was rape. The presiding judge used Michigan's new Rape Shield Law to prohibit cross-examination of Linda.
  
  
• For which if cross examination had been allowed, the fact that Linda had on two other separate occasions, made claims of rape against William only to rescind these claims later. Under the Constitution and the Bill of Rights, “a person has a right to face their accuser”. If one cannot question the validity and/or the possibility of serial false accusations, how is one to get a just and fair trial? Rhetorical, of course.
  
  
• No physical evidence of rape was produced at the trial. A pelvic examination of Linda at the hospital three hours after the alleged offense showed no evidence of injury or forced penetration. Only her words were enough for this man to be found guilty of the heinous crime of rape.
  
  
• The court-designated psychologist who examined Hetherington, Dr. Harold S. Sommerschield, Ph.D., concluded: "This is not a man who would force himself sexually or hostilely on another individual, as this would be foreign to his personality dynamics. ... His histrionic personality ... would substantiate his explanation of what has occurred in regards to the relationship with his ex-wife."
  
  
• Evidential photographs of the alleged victim were never disclosed to the defense and were incorrectly handled. Specifically, ten years after conviction, Jeff Feldman, under the Freedom of Information Act, obtained copies of the five photographs taken of Linda by police at the alleged crime scene immediately after the alleged offense. The photographs were in a locker in a police garage.
  
  
• The rape case was coincidentally prosecuted simultaneously with the custody case. This action alone put William in the middle of a ‘rock and a hard place’. Since the divorce court had frozen all his (their) assets, he had no money to hire a lawyer or to even make bond. Yet, because of his listed assets, the criminal court ruled that he was not indigent (or poor enough) and refused to provide him with a court appointed lawyer.
  
  
• A four page report submitted with a sworn statement dated January 8, 1998 by an acclaimed forensics photographer. John Valor, utilizing new and modern techniques, stated that the pictures of Linda showed no scratches, tape marks or abnormalities of any kind, absolute. Furthermore, he states that marks would have been identifiable and clearly visible if there had been any at all.
  
  This brings to the forefront an additional discrepancy that, under the law, if a witness (in this case a government witness) gives false testimony, a convicted prisoner should be entitled to a new trial, but William Hetherington has yet to receive one. In the least, the witness should be charged with perjury.
  
  
• The State of Michigan’s sentencing guideline for this new offense at the time was 1 to 10 years yet, without cause, the judge sentenced him to 15 to 30 years.
  
  
• At sentencing, the prosecutor, one Robert Weiss called Hetherington's alleged offense equivalent to "first degree murder" and maliciously accused William of beating Linda with no evidence to support his wildly false accusation. Coincidently yet again, Weiss was running for a judgeship, and observers sized up his prejudicial statements as grandstanding for support from the feminists and gender-baiters.
  
  
• Additionally, this particular point has all the components and indicators of William being ‘Nifonged’. A reference to the railroading of three innocent boys at Duke University by a rogue DA and a stripper and drug addict; Ms. Chrystal Gail Mangum.
  
  
• For more than 12 years, the court has refused to provide William with court transcripts. Of course, without funds, he was unable to purchase one. Thus, he was effectively denied his right of appeal, an inalienable right supposedly granted to all accused. And to this day, no appeal has ever been heard on the substance of this case.

No physical evidence, a Judges gross misconduct and political motivations, no legal representation, denied due process, denial of appeal, false testimonies, and blatant lies have kept this man in prison for over 20 years. All the while his estranged wife Linda walked away with custody of their three daughters, the marital home, and all marital assets. This achingly rings true to many men that find themselves in a bitter divorce and custody battle today.

For example, a few years later, a letter was sent to the parole board by Melissa Anne Suchy, who had babysitter for Linda. Suchy stated that Linda told her she made up the whole story about rape because she was pregnant from her boyfriend. And of course in true ‘victim speak’, she claimed that her boyfriend had pushed her to press rape charges, saying that “he wouldn't take care of the baby” if she didn’t "get rid of Hetherington."

Or course, Suchy's letter is justifiably considered hearsay, but it has the ring of truth considering the atmosphere created by the Domestic Violence and Divorce Industries. Yes, they are indeed part of an industry… A billion dollar industry.

It is my opinion that a good man's life has been sacrificed for no other reason but to show the women of Michigan that the new law is “tough on rape and DV”, nothing more. It mattered not if he was innocent or guilty. It matters not that his punishment has already exceeded that of a ‘real rapist’, threefold. The system must protect its own. And most certainly it must never-ever-ever admit its errors, let alone correct them.

Three innocent children have been denied their father, by the malicious feminists and their lackeys who have lobbied for such slight-of-hand laws that punish GOOD MEN for such ‘gray-area-rape’ similarly to that of a rape or murder committed by a stranger. In creating this law, GOOD MEN are denied the right to cross-examine his accuser and have solidified a system that states a woman never lies, must always be believed, contrary to evidence and similar serial accusations… And the man… well the man is always guilty, isn’t he.

Coming full circle, let me just state that regardless of his guilt or innocence, the constitutionality of his case is sorely lacking and errs on the side of false imprisonment without due process; a human rights issues if I ever saw one.

In closing, I urge you to take a serious look at William J. Hetherington’s case. More importantly, I urge you to re-evaluate your decision to deny bail yet again.

If you believe he is guilty, then he has completed his time. And if you believe that there are too many discrepancies to ignore this man’s plight, please do what is right and release him. Give him a chance to have a life; a chance to be a father, a chance for his children to know this man. At least as their father if not moreso, an innocent man.

Supplimental Information:

I again urge my readers to write to the Michigan Parole Board at the following address.

Michigan Parole Board
C/o Executive Secretary
PO Box 30003
Lansing, MI 48909

Letters should mention Mr. Hetherington's name and his inmate number of 186155.

Mr. Hetherington likes copies of letters sent to the parole board to be mailed to him as well. His address follows:

William J. Hetherington #186155
Boyer Road Carson City Correctional Facilities
PO Box 5000
Carson City, MI 48811-5000.

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M is for Moms

They can cook kids in ovens
They can drown them in lakes
They can chop off their limbs
They can burn them at stakes

They can smother them
Bleed them
Dismember them all
They stash their sad bodies
In closets, behind walls...

...In suitcases grim, beneath flower beds;
They begged for their lives;
And now they are dead

Their killers? -Their mothers;
Who beat, drown, and hack;
When it comes to child-murder,
The mom is no slack.

But when it comes to the court
And the newsreel we find
That men are the villains;
They think all moms are kind

They little consider
The statistics which tell
That families-sans-fathers
Are our children's worst hell

So pray for our children
And pray for the State
Which finds women all saintly
And men, reprobate.

Perhaps some day soon
We'll treat women like men
And not coddle those
Who kill most
Who cause Woe to Men.

MBTYIYS:
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